I know that my children deserve less than I got. Most likely your child does too. This doesn’t go down easy, if like me you’re a member of the industrial growth society. Here, most of us by far want to pass on more to our children than our parents gave us. Such is the script […]
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Planning family-time before anything else
Work comittments easily take precedence over family-time. Not without conflict though. Someone in the family will eventually feel left out, or ignored, or excluded. If communication is unclear, there might be anger or withdrawal. Or, god forbid, the leaden cloak of supressed anger. Let’s bring our family-time back to the center of our lives. Here’s […]
Ask your child for help to find the time to parent
I was supporting a father the other week, and after an intense, surprising and creative session with some out-of-the-box prescriptions for change, he paused and in a slow voice he said, “I just need to find the time for this.” I immediately asked: “Where will you look?” He paused a long time before conceding that […]
Nothing is good for a child’s growth
Every child needs a healthy dose of nothing to do. Nothing germinates their imagination, cultivates their delight, develops their relationship to self. Nothing gifts them with the discovery that their selves hold an infinity of world’s within worlds. Nothing teaches them something about life that nothing else can do. Too much to do, too many […]
Time for yourself
The arrival of a baby changes all relationships, including our relationship with time. Our days, and hearts, reorganize to tend to this new, tender life. One day we feel a tinge of panic, and realize we are losing our autonomy. We have hardly any time for ourselves. Listen to that tinge and take it seriously. […]