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Our children deserve less than we got

August 21, 2018 By Miki Dedijer

I know that my children deserve less than I got. Most likely your child does too. This doesn’t go down easy, if like me you’re a member of the industrial growth society. Here, most of us by far want to pass on more to our children than our parents gave us. Such is the script […]

Your child’s spiritual doctor

July 10, 2018 By Miki Dedijer

Your child’s nature unfolds like an oak from an acorn. Once she has tumbled onto the ground from some mysterious height, it is the soil and the wind and the rains that give her ultimate expression its particular form. Who she becomes when she’s well rooted and fully extended has painfully little to do with […]

Considered consequence

February 22, 2018 By Miki Dedijer

You don’t have to be the consequence visited upon your child’s choices. Let winter teach her what it’s like to rush out without putting on that extra pair of warm socks. Let molten wax on the knuckle of her pinkie teach her about a burning candle. The most loving way to parent can be to […]

Your secret lover

February 13, 2018 By Miki Dedijer

Your partner doesn’t know your secret lover called Plan B. Plan B is softer, more loving, doesn’t smell of onions. It has nicer parents, better health, and always agrees with the values you want to share with your child. Plan B doesn’t age. It is the other life you dream of when this one seems […]

Your child’s gift holds the family together

December 20, 2017 By Miki Dedijer

What sets every family member apart is what holds the family together. This is an old ancestral understanding. The strength of our relationships grows from our willingness to honor, celebrate and cultivate our differences. Every child has a unique gift, talent, passion that complements the gifts of others. These are the variegated threads of a […]

One-liners: parenting in a single sentence

December 18, 2017 By Miki Dedijer

“It’s only a mistake if you don’t learn from it.” My son spoke this sentence today. We were stuck with the car in an icy ditch. Foolishly, I had tried to reverse uphill on a crust of compacted snow and rain. There was a lot for me to learn here (and model too!). He’s heard […]

The origin of song

November 27, 2017 By Miki Dedijer

As a young, ambitious man, I sought the origin of song in the brain of an Australian zebra finch. I was training to become a neurologist. My practice was to pick apart the foundations of beauty, wonder, awe to locate the source of music and the grammar of song. Or that was the idea. All […]

Broken chrysalis

November 24, 2017 By Miki Dedijer

The world is being broken open, and you may break with it, like a chrysalis. This is one way we heal–breaking down whatever separates us from the whole. So rupture the cocoon of factory-mind, emerge resplendently winged. Take flight, by submitting to all that lies beyond this sugared shell spun like a spell around your […]

Releasing expectations so your child can grow

November 20, 2017 By Miki Dedijer

Suddenly your child is not who you think she was. She used to seek your presence then suddenly she is more remote. She was once a calm and content child and suddenly she is unruly, wild and angry. She would fall asleep without a fuss and now she refuses to go to bed at all. […]

Lifeline

November 16, 2017 By Miki Dedijer

A ship trails a lifeline in its wake for the safety of its passengers. It’s a precaution wise captains take, drawing on thousands of years’ experience with the high seas. The latest breathing technique, meditation video, yoga posture or  parenting tool is of little use when your 8 year old is sulking, your 4-year old […]

Imagination and the art of parenting

October 3, 2017 By Miki Dedijer

Our imagination is vital to our ability to parent joyfully. Imagination dies when our lives become routine. It withers when we too often choose comfort over change. It goes undergound when we become trapped in family roles. It goes stale when we set our up lives to avoid surprises, spontaneity and the unforeseen. It freezes […]

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