There are a few spells around, beliefs that are so common we hardly notice their insidious impact on how we lead our lives. Like when we tell a child “You can be anything you want to be”, without us actually having any way to know what that child’s potential truly is. Potential has no definite […]
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Pulled apart, longing to be together
All we ever want is to be together as a family, to laugh, play, and enjoy our lives as a little team. But there is so much in the modern world that pulls us in different directions–work, money, geography, school, health, digital technology, media. How do we as parents respond? Lower the bar–start small, take […]
When praise blocks your child’s joy
Your child cleans her room, plays a beautiful tune on the saxophone, draws an apple tree by a lake. And you praise her for what she’s accomplished, sharing your excitement, gratitude, amazement, pride. Your intention comes from a loving place, but it may land differently than you expect on your child’s ears. She may hear […]
Imagination and the art of parenting
Our imagination is vital to our ability to parent joyfully. Imagination dies when our lives become routine. It withers when we too often choose comfort over change. It goes undergound when we become trapped in family roles. It goes stale when we set our up lives to avoid surprises, spontaneity and the unforeseen. It freezes […]
The richest inheritance you can give
It’s not wealth, property or an expensive education. The richest inheritance we can offer our child is our joy. It flows from us when we learn to love ourselves and others. It’s our laughter. Our delight. Our curiosity. Our awe. Our gratitude. Our acceptance. Our passion. Our playfulness. Our vitality. It’s the gift of our […]
Flow with your child’s impulse
It’s so easy to miss. Your child says ‘Hey, let’s go check out the tadpoles’, and for some reason, known or unknown, you say no, sweetie, not now. And the moment passes, maybe for the summer. You have good reasons for not always indulging your child–chores, time, priorities, limits, plans, desires. But there are times […]