AN ONLINE GATHERING FOR COMMITTED FATHERS
The Lodge for Dads
The Lodge for Dads is an online gathering for inspired, wholehearted fathers on managing your emotional health, deepening your relationship with your child, and creating a healthier home environment.
You will meet with other dads in a small lodge circle every two weeks for a 90-minute exploration of themes that are central to fatherhood.
Here you will develop new habits in support of your core values. You will receive support in overcoming your obstacles and challenges. And together with this band of dads, you celebrate your visions and your breakthroughs.
When you join the Lodge for Dads, you will be guided by Miki Dedijer towards greater ease, purpose and joy as a man and a father.
It was great to meet with such an eclectic group of men from all walks of life with a common trait, being a Dad. Drawing on all our life experience to form a lodge for Dads was enriching and heart-filling. Being able to share what we have learned as fathers, and spread it among ourselves, creates a beautiful platform for dads to come together and grow.
Paul Prescott, PaulPrescott.com, Croatia
IS THIS YOU?
You want to be a confident dad who provides the home environment your child needs to really flourish. A place where he or she always feels loved and appreciated.
It’s not always easy. We hold a lot as conscious fathers, doing our best to be present at home while also serving through our vocation.
How do we live in integrity? How do we align our actions with our hearts, our values and what we believe is good and right in this world?
We’re the ones changing what it means to be a man and a dad. And with this transition comes tension, resistance and challenging feelings.
We learn as we go. And sometimes the going is lonely. We feel lost, rudderless. We could really use some support and inspiration.
It’s what the Lodge for Dads is built for. Here you can belong to a small clan of dads who regularly share and support each other in a safe and protected space. The better we know ourselves and each other, the easier it is for us to stay clear, centered and grounded.
Together we find our way towards greater awareness, ease and relaxation. And we change fatherhood for good.
I really valued Miki’s intelligent and nuanced insight into parenthood. His support directly helped me navigate one key issues with my kids in a really good way. As a single father and maybe just as a father, of 2 children, I can feel isolated with my role as a dad; having the lodge to connect with regularly helped me identify with other men and with fatherhood in such a fundamentally good way. Sometimes it was being there to witness and support other men in their celebration or struggle with being dads, sometimes it gave me a space to share what was going on for me and sometimes it was both. It’s rare that we get offered this kind of space to come together as men, as fathers and explore ourselves and our roles. It’s uncommonly supportive.
–John Bassi, England
THE POWER OF SMALL GROUP COACHING
You know you want and need real hands-on, personal help in your life as a father. Yet you’re not sure if individual, one-on-one coaching is the thing. Sometimes for us men, we do our best work in the presence of other men.
The Lodge welcomes a very small, hand-picked group of men who are dreaming similar dreams and facing similar challenges in their parenting, facilitated and coached by someone who can help bring a lot more joy to your heart and fatherhood.
Often this kind of a group is even more powerful than one-on-one support because of the synergy created by a circle of devoted fathers. Here the gifts each man brings, can accelerate your depth of understanding and your pace of growth.
With a small group of people–each focusing attention on you when it’s your time–you experience personal growth in a dynamic system. A bit like an extended family that is there to witness, empathize with and support you.
You may have some fear around sharing your journey as a dad with an online group. What if you don’t get any attention? Will you want to share with people you may not yet know?
Your participation in this group is about you. You’re only going to feel good about participating if you’re really getting something out of it.
And it’s important to understand that with the support of this group – this band of dads – so much more is available to you. Being a part of this circle means you pull as hard for everyone else’s journey as you do for yourself. And, it means that everyone else is pulling for you too.
What other spaces do you have in your life where you invest time and energy on fatherhood together with a small group of committed, experienced, insightful men?
In the lodge there’s an amplified field of give and take, and there’s exponentially more support. It’s a supportive and safe space to practice being you more fully in communion with others who care about you and your parenting success.
You won’t feel so alone, so overwhelmed and having to carry all of this in isolation.
As a psychiatrist, psychotherapist and psychotraumatologist with 20+ years of experience, I know that I need peer support, supervision and collegiality. If I believe, as I do, that my role as a father is even more important than my work as a healer, then why would I not make the same arrangements for being a dad. This group provides this for me and I love it. I have been in many groups across my 46 years and this was the first time that I was a dad with other dads – do your family a favour and join these other dads who are on the same journey. Journey well.
–Paul Miller, Mirabilis Health, Northern Ireland
ALONG WITH THE GROUP YOU GET ME
I’m the father of two boys who has started several community groups for men, fathers and boys. I’ve coached fathers for the past four years, and know a lot about how to navigate past obstacles to manifest greater joy in our lives. I have a deep connection to nature, and hard-earned experience in community work, along with various parenting trainings.
I’ve lead collaborative teams like this for many years, including faciliating weeklong workshops for hundreds of participants. My commitment is to skillfully facilitate the group so that regardless of who has the focused attention, each of you benefit and take something valuable away to your own families.
Two 90 minutes calls a month
These calls are facilitated with plenty of air time for each person. Expect these calls to be low in theory and high in hand holding. Parenting is less about we know and more about who we are. To change your life, you must change how you act. Every call will include some suggestions for new ways of acting.
I ask each member to make a minimum 6 month commitment to the group to allow the process to work, and I’m guessing you’ll be having enough fun and rewarding changes that you’ll want to keep going.
If there are spaces that open, new members may join, but only by commitment to six months, so there will be no feeling of a revolving door. We’ll be meeting two Tuesdays’s each month, from 8:00 – 9:30 PM Central European Time, on the following dates in 2017 (next year’s dates will be announced later):
October 31| November 14 & 28 | December 12 |
(The start date for this group is tentative and may be moved.)
A private members’ group
During and in between calls you’ll have a chance to connect with the other participants in a private forum on my website, where you can let it all hang out and get the honest and direct feedback you’re craving. Only for group members, this is a place to support each other, test out what you’re exploring, and to help me keep a pulse on what’s happening with you so the live calls can be as powerful and focused as possible. You’ll be able to share your wins (which may inspire others) and your struggles (for which I can promise you there will be both emotional and practical support).
A resource library
Who you are as a dad is more important than what you know. It’s less about skill and technique than it is about being authentically yourself.
You probably don’t really need more content or expertise, but sometimes there are particular skills or understandings that would be really helpful.
As needed I can pull from my fatherhood archives, providing apt resources so we don’t need to take up valuable group coaching time learning specific approaches or perspectives.
I feel I am a good father, but I do things wrong, feel guilty and isolated at times. Being seen and heard by other fathers and able to explore my feelings and concerns around being a dad was the best part of the lodge. Connecting with other dads and with the teaching that Miki provided was invaluable in framing the father I want to be and the family culture I would like to see. It opened the door to free flowing communication and honesty with my wife. and I believe has made me a better dad. I look forward to sitting in lodge again with the other dads. Blessings and thanks to Miki.
–Douglas Guest, Scotland
A Truly Small Group
Each group will have no more than 6 people, so that everyone gets air time and personal focus, and no one gets lost in the crowd.
Your minimum commitment is six months. Fair warning, though: most of my clients have enough fun and results that they end up working with me for 1-2 years or longer. If someone leaves at the end of six months, or there is an open spot, a new member may join, with the same six month commitment, so there is no revolving-door feeling in the group.
Euro 70 per month.
SO HOW DO YOU GET IN?
Two steps. First, fill out the form below. Then you have a conversation with me. Together we’ll figure out if this is the best, most fun way to unveil your natural gift for fatherhood, and to ensure that the group is really effective. Ready? Just fill out this form and I’ll get back to you to connect – usually within 2 business days.
It has been really helpful for me to have a greater understanding of my role as a Father and I can see how that has meant that my partner has been able to relax into being a Mother. I wish that more new fathers had a similar experience as I can now see how important it is to the bedrock of the family. Thank you for your enthusiasm about fathering and the way you bring it. I find it very inspiring!!
–Ross Adams, Abundant Gardens, England