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We can’t fix childhood

November 8, 2017 By Miki Dedijer

There’s no solution to childhood.

Though you’d think there would be, as so much of childhood is seen as a problem to be fixed.

My kid is too angry, doesn’t sleep, can’t sit still, doesn’t talk, talks too much, says the wrong thing, is shy, is too loud, never listens, doesn’t play, plays all the time, eats poorly, eats too much, doesn’t walk yet, has no friends, is never home.

I’m not saying children don’t face challenges and suffer. But so do you and I. We’re human after all.

And like all humans, every child thrives on being seen, valued, affirmed and celebrated. And like any person, a child hurts when picked apart into constituent pieces and analyzed for imperfections or labelled as a problem.

A child like any person needs to have good relationships, and help learning how to develop them. They may not always know.

A child is not an instrument in need of a mechanic. A child is a person in need of loving guidance and gentle reminders.

Planning family-time before anything else
Freedom to play

Filed Under: Relationship Tagged With: guidance, indigenous, relationship

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