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Making room for anger

October 26, 2017 By Miki Dedijer

Our home needs to house our entire child, every part of her, even her anger.

Her screams, tantrums, rages need a large room of their own.

We create space for this out of our own familiarity with distress.

We teach her where to find peace again, by knowing how to find our own peace.

One of the old meanings for ‘anger’ is ‘grief’. Under the painful constriction of agony, there is a well of tears.

Once our child has spent all her anger, we hold her tears within the embrace of our own tears.

Our home needs to house all of us too.

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