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Flood the troubled child with love

October 17, 2017 By Miki Dedijer

Any child gets troublesome when there’s a tear in their most cherished relationships.

She may be passive aggresive, anxious, manipulative, or fight with her sibling.

There may be nothing you can say to resolve her pain. But there may be something powerful you can do.

Flood your child with love.

When all else fails, take a time out. Announce that the two of you will spend an whole hour together, a full evening, an entire day together.

Let your child take the lead (and you decide on possible boundaries on money, safety, time). Then head out. And for the time you’re together, ditch your phone, scrap your plans, make a committment to be all in, playfully present.
Delight in your child, love her, pay attention, be curious, mend the broken bonds.

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